Mother’s Day: A Time to Give Thanks
With Mother’s Day fast approaching, my house has become a flurry of secret meetings and hushed conversations as my daughters gleefully plan surprises for my “special” day. Inevitably, many times throughout the weeks leading up to this event, one or more of my girls will come up to me and sweetly ask, “Mommy, what do you want for Mother’s Day?” This has never been an easy question for me to answer and has always left me pondering the concept of receiving a gift for a role that has only showered me with immeasurable blessings. Don’t get me wrong, I love presents, especially the handmade-by-little-fingers kind, but I also relish the gift of spiritual growth that my children offer up to me on a daily basis.
Each time I learned I was pregnant, these little miracles brought to the surface a wide-range of emotions that I didn’t even know I had. Along with the sheer joy a new baby brings, came painful feelings as well; anger, frustration, fear - all ripe for the healing. As you can imagine, I wasn’t always grateful for the growth. On some days, looking into the confused eyes of a child I just crushed with hurtful words was gut-wrenching to say the least. Believe me when I tell you, that I have spent many agonizing hours wondering why God entrusted these sweet souls to me. On better days, I eagerly accept the challenge to live each day as loving and present as possible with them and to be thankful for lessons learned. My children have helped me and continue to support me to heal anger and sadness that I have held since my own childhood by questioning my moods when they are less than admirable. Through their patience and love, I have learned to become more understanding, empowered, creative, playful and less self-deprecating.
Becoming a mother has been the most transformative experience that I have ever known. I often like to think of mothering as a work in progress, every day bringing new opportunities to grow my soul – a truly wondrous gift indeed. When I take a moment and really let this truth sink in deeply, I can only bow in gratitude. So for Mother’s Day, I think I would like to spend some quality time with the little people in my life that have helped make me who I am today, a confident, loving and humble mother of three very wise and courageous daughters.
Linda Hasley is a writer and poet living in Royal Oak, Michigan with her husband and three daughters. She and her twin sister Lisa have published their first book together, Sacred. The book is a collection of poetry and photography honoring the sacred journey of parenthood. For book ordering and more information, please visit www.sacredportraitsphotography.com